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What have you learned, Charlie Brown?

Posted by and1grad on October 31, 2008

I was thinking this morning about how I’ve now turned 30 and I’ve been wondering what I’ve learned over this past 3 decades that I would be inclined to share with people. I think by the time you’ve reached 30, you’ve learned a lot of life lessons. Some the easy way…a good number of them, the hard way. I didnt really make a list ahead of time so I’m just gonna shoot from the hip here. Also, these are just my own theories so feel free to comment on them.

#1. You dont know everything and you arent supposed to.
I really think that once people realize that they are NOT omniscient, they start to become more openminded and become more able to learn things that they dont know. Once they start thinking their experts, they stop listening to what ANYONE has to say. I know I can be guilty of this SOMETIMES. *cough*

#2. Take care of the people that love you…or dont.
But if you dont, dont complain if/when you find yourself alone. If there are people in your life that are special to you, make sure they know it every once in a while.

#3. Listen to your parents.
A lot of what your parents tell you is right b/c a lot of what happens in the world is functionally similar to what has happened before. “History always repeats itself.” Your parents are advising you b/c they’ve seen/been through some version of what you’re going through already. It may not be an identical situation…just remixed. I’m not saying do whatever they say. I’m just saying hear them out.

#4. Education is an exercise of discipline more than it is of intelligence.
This is a theory I learned in college. You will come across a lot of people who seem intellectually subpar but will get fantastic grades in school. This is b/c they know how to work. By that I mean putting in the time it takes to ensure a desired result. A lot of people are smart but lazy. What good comes from that? Be smart enough to work hard.

#5. Its not what you know, its who you know.
This is common knowledge to most in the working world. Networking is how you advance in this world. What you actually know, is a bonus. Be smart enough to put your name out in circulation and doors will open JUST ENOUGH for you to get your foot in and prove yourself.

#6. Presentation is everything.
This one speaks to both the social and working world. How you present yourself is how people will see you. How you present material is more important than the actual content. Examples of this are omnipresent. Pay attention, you’ll see it.

#7. Believe in yourself.
The matriarch used to always tell me “If you dont believe in yourself, how can you expect someone to believe in you?” So simple and so true. Trust yourself to make even the toughest of decisions…and then make them. Know that you’re able to make a decision that you’re willing to live with. This knowledge alone is freeing and when you believe in yourself, people wont be able to help but believe in you.

#8. Make an impact.
This is actually a self-motto for me and one of my life-long goals in terms of a legacy. I want to make an impact, in some regard, in whatever I do, whomever I know, and so on. In my opinion, one of the best legacies you can leave in life is knowing you had a positive effect on somebody. I hope I’m able to fulfill that, myself.

#9. You’re crazy.
Its a crazy world out there and more than likely its made you a little crazy also. You HAVE to be a little crazy to be able to survive. I say embrace that inner Gnarls Barkley, just slightly now, and realize that normalcy is as much of a myth as perfection.

#10. Find something to laugh at.
Taking #9 into account, you dont want to COMPLETELY lose your mind. Laughing helps keep some of your sanity by relieving stress. So rather than get frustrated at all of the mind-boggling things that happen in this crazy world, laugh at some of it. Some things are simply absurd and are fodder for ridicule. So take a “The Daily Show with John Stewart” outlook on the world and laugh at some of these absurdities. You’ll find that they wont bother you as much the next time.

I’m sure there’s more but thats all that come to mind at the moment. Please feel free to comment and/or add some others that you’ve learned. I do have another theory which I call “The Theory of Circles” but I’ll have to get to that another time.


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Flashback Friday: Thriller — Michael Jackson

Posted by and1grad on October 30, 2008

Happy Halloween!!

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Birthday Boy — 1900 hours

Posted by and1grad on October 30, 2008

Captain’s Log:

This birthday is winding down in a melancholy way. It started raining sometime this afternoon. I didnt figure on it raining until tomorrow so I was, of course, unprepared. They say it raining on your birthday is a good omen. I hope so…b/c otherwise this day has been a lil “meh.”

Wound up having to ride the bike home…in the rain. Sweet. Did I mention I was wearing the suede Jordans today? So they got drenched. Awesome. And the ticket I got a couple weekends ago, came in the mail today. Wow…somebody get me a party hat!

But on a happy note…let me remind you folks that I share a birthday with…


The Fonz!! Aaaaaaaayyyyyyyeeeee!!!!!

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Birthday Boy — 1400 hours

Posted by and1grad on October 30, 2008

Captain’s Log:

Already I’m tired. Work is kicking my butt. And there’s only more of it to go. Finishing will be a testament to willpower as the work is crazy boring and monotonous. Thank goodness for lunchtime.

My coworkers and I celebrate by going to The Melting Pot, which is this cool fondue place. We get the vegetarian and finish off with their dessert, which is awesome. Melted milk chocolate with peanut butter mixed in. The dipping foods consist of pound cake, strawberries, bananas, marshmallows (wrapped in oreo), brownie, and rice krispie treats. Ladies and gentlemen, we ate like royalty. Dig that.

Two and a half hour lunch…why not?

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Birthday Boy — 0900 hours

Posted by and1grad on October 30, 2008

“The saga begins
My eye is a photography lens…”

This is how thirty begins. I get up, get out the house, hop on the bike, and the freeway is jammed like a mosh pit. Not even for a good reason, like an accident, but apparently b/c people get confused at on ramps. “Wait, you want get on freeway? Let me brake…hard. What, that no work? Lemme speed up at the exact same time and amount that you speed up. That work good.” After I watch 2 big rigs go by, I’m finally able to hop out of that line and get to work.

As soon as I get to work, I realize that I forgot my badge. Damn…thirty is starting out kinda tough. But then I got a call from “twin” and some texts from my people and I feel right as rain now. Thanks yall. I appreciate the love. I appreciate you.

Thirty has started and a brotha like me…is ready.

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My Theme

Posted by and1grad on October 29, 2008

I’m gonna start my 30s with this…my quintessential song. I think everyone has that song that just speaks to them. Like if there were a song that could define me…this would be it.

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Posted by and1grad on October 28, 2008

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GH World Tour Commercial

Posted by and1grad on October 28, 2008

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Show Me Your Genitals

Posted by and1grad on October 25, 2008

Just something dumb to laugh at. Shoutout to Ms. Miss for finding this one.

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This is hysterical

Posted by and1grad on October 25, 2008

Check this out on the Black Snob’s page. Absolutely hysterical.

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